Reciprocity and symbiosis are good manners.

When someone makes a gesture toward you in making life easier for you or helping you in some way, pay him or her back.  If they invite you for dinner whether or not you have the dinner with them, call them the next day to thank them.  Never accept an invitation to dinner and show up empty handed. If you cannot think of an appropriate present, a scented candle or music tape is always appreciated, then you must bring a bottle of wine or flowers. If you go to a party, eat the food, drink the wine, meet new people, next time you go out and invite them for dinner pick up the check and send them a thank you card. Pay back and reciprocate.

Luck favors the prepared mind.

The master would also test the alertness of the novices by interjecting nonsense maxims and space them between significant ideas into his teaching to test their awareness and to joke. He would teach that many maxims have a general application and practical use. Then just for fun he threw in some opposites.

Fortune favors the lucky.

Money is its own reward.

There are more things in heaven and earth than any place else.

The more things change the more they stay the same.


Attitude / Proper Views / Mistakes in memory and misquotes.

Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.

Another partial quote that is often misinterpreted to allude to a present changes when the entire quote is read. The meaning is clear that it has to do with manners and a tip.

‘Tis civility wins the gratuity, and those who expect them should take graciously what is given them and not look a gift-horse in the mouth unless they know for certain that the winners are common cheats and have won unfairly. Cervantes, Don Quixote


Attitude and Change

If you do not change your direction you will end up where you are headed.

The captain of a battleship has just been informed by a lookout that a light has been spied dead ahead through the fog in the distance. The captain orders a signal sent by flashing light. “We are on a collision course, advise you alter course 30 degree port.”

The signal is straight away returned, “Advisable for you to change course 30 degrees starboard.”

The captain ordered his communications officer to send back, “I’m a captain. You had better change course 30 degrees port immediately.”

“I’m a seaman second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 30 degrees starboard.”

Now extremely irked the captain spit out, “I’m a battleship. Change course 30 degrees port now.”

Back came the flashing light. “I’m a light house.”