You can have inspiration, motivation, and fantasies, but what you must have is organization and a prioritized plan. Vision is a dream of what we want, what we aspire to become our destiny, and it should be clear. Mission is the focus on who, what, and when. Our values determine how we deal with the interconnectedness. Vision is dream; mission is focus; core values are behavior. In tomorrow’s world, knowledge and information will supersede every aspect of growth. If you want to let the future in, you have to exam, scrutinize, learn, and know, these aspects of your thinking. Then you must be prepared, physically, mentally, logistically, and most of all with implementation.
We have to reckon forcefully with the idea that there is a right side and a wrong side. The key world here is responsibility for your actions, inactions, collusion, collaboration, speech, or silence. If you are aware of the problem, but do nothing, then you are complicit in accepting a system or situation, which has twisted reality for their convenience. If you can act, even in a small way, and you will not, that is where complicity lives, and your inaction has moral consequences.
Release the thoughts that no longer serve you, by first acknowledging the harm it is doing to your physical and mental health, by carrying the weight of the past hurts, disappointments, madness, accidents, and life’s tribulations. Then stop and visualize the freedom of cleansing yourself of the burden. God and Caesar are man-made authorities but one’s ultimate authority should be oneself. It is not your fault, obligation, or duty to punish yourself or hold the guilt or shame. Be accessible, find some key people and engage them. Focus on your mid-course correction and then your new direction. Even if you did the best you could and failed, you tried. Move forward into a positive reality by understanding you have another chance today to get under way again, and begin. Are you breathing? Drink a full glass of water, stretch, take a deep breathe, put your hands over your head and say out loud, “Yes I can start again.”
Wow. So many people emailed me about this blog, and asked for counsel, that I have to continue with some advice. It is also an excerpt from the book, A Way to Love Laugh.
Rejection like old age is a part of life, both suck. The alternatives, no action and death are a lot worse. Unfortunately, we hear rejection louder than praise. But, we have to live with refusal and accept the negative aspects; we must accommodate and move on. If you are actively seeking a new love, you must be somewhat aggressive. You will be bashed and dismissed: so, what? The idea is to end in triumph and obtain your goal. Do not search for a companion in some remote or exotic place. The easiest place to find love is where you are. But, you must be available to have a relationship and friends and not always too busy.
Some thoughtful strategies might be to tell yourself and believe; the person didn’t know me anyway, they didn’t want to take the risk, there is no accounting for taste, no one really knows how good I am, no one knows what I have to give. But, most of all, it only takes just one person to accept and love you. You can lessen the pain by simply trying again. If they say no, just say to yourself, NEXT!
Rejection like old age is a part of life, both suck. The alternatives, no action and death are a lot worse. Unfortunately, we hear rejection louder than praise. But, we have to live with refusal and accept the negative aspects; we must accommodate and move on. If you are actively seeking a new love, you must be somewhat aggressive. You will be bashed and dismissed: so, what? The idea is to end in triumph and obtain your goal. Do not search for a companion in some remote or exotic place. The easiest place to find love is where you are. But, you must be available to have a relationship and friends and not always too busy. (Excerpt from, A Way to Love Laugh.)
There is a cycle that we are unaware of. We are depressed and do not know why. If there is something wrong with your body, more specifically, there is a reaction to the central nervous system when toxic or metabolic changes are produced by a visceral condition. A flood of cytokines responds to the invasion of, abnormal cells, chemical imbalances, incorrect medications, and cause the onset of depression. So being depressed may be a warning sign that something serous is happening and you have to have yourself checked out physically. You have to become more aware of how you consume, passively, mindlessly, or critically and actively, with an awareness always moving toward healthier consumption. (This is a paragraph from my new book, A Way to Health – Move, to be published this year. I’ll let you know when it is out.) S
When everything goes well, we do not learn. We believe, “that is the way things should be.” But when adversarial or difficult conditions or experiences occur, they affect us emotionally. We learn on a deeper level, in the same way surviving hard winters make a tree physically powerful, the growth rings inside it grow more compressed, denser and stronger. Stay strong. Stay positive. Satoru