Rejection like old age is a part of life, both suck. The alternatives, no action and death are a lot worse. Unfortunately, we hear rejection louder than praise. But, we have to live with refusal and accept the negative aspects; we must accommodate and move on. If you are actively seeking a new love, you must be somewhat aggressive. You will be bashed and dismissed: so, what? The idea is to end in triumph and obtain your goal. Do not search for a companion in some remote or exotic place. The easiest place to find love is where you are. But, you must be available to have a relationship and friends and not always too busy. (Excerpt from, A Way to Love Laugh.)
There is a cycle that we are unaware of. We are depressed and do not know why. If there is something wrong with your body, more specifically, there is a reaction to the central nervous system when toxic or metabolic changes are produced by a visceral condition. A flood of cytokines responds to the invasion of, abnormal cells, chemical imbalances, incorrect medications, and cause the onset of depression. So being depressed may be a warning sign that something serous is happening and you have to have yourself checked out physically. You have to become more aware of how you consume, passively, mindlessly, or critically and actively, with an awareness always moving toward healthier consumption. (This is a paragraph from my new book, A Way to Health – Move, to be published this year. I’ll let you know when it is out.) S
When everything goes well, we do not learn. We believe, “that is the way things should be.” But when adversarial or difficult conditions or experiences occur, they affect us emotionally. We learn on a deeper level, in the same way surviving hard winters make a tree physically powerful, the growth rings inside it grow more compressed, denser and stronger. Stay strong. Stay positive. Satoru
My good friend sends me Emails about Zen and life. He sent me one recently, from a post he perused, that really made me think. What matters most: the outcome or the intent. It was the writings of an individual that reminded me of the Zen saying, “A person who holds and exposes a lot of wise saying, maxims, and proverbs gives the impression of intelligence.” This individual, upon closer examination of his writing, sandwiches truth between unsubstantiated assertions, unrealistic results, and sloppy thinking. He states, “be ever-present and mindfully diligent throughout all of your endeavuors.” And does not even spell check.
But when he started to assert his views about art and life, he really fell short and ventured far from practical reality and the real world. “don’t be more concerned with the possible outcomes, than with the intentions themselves. Now, treat your life as you would your art.” So, without any skill, preparation, training, planning, conceptualization, and focus on success, make some art. In the first case that would be called art therapy. In the latter, it would allow you to be a free spirt, devoid of responsibility for the finished product, negating deferred gratification, and lost in emotional immaturity without hope of ever becoming an adult.
Your focus determines your reality. If you look for bliss in every moment, as this individual asserts, you will be frustrated and stressed out all your lifetime. Yes, you can live in the now, but the outcome of your positive endeavors is what makes you succeed, not just your intent. Satoru
Nations, companies, corporations, cooperatives, businesses, and most of all, people, do not appreciate what they have. So, the thrust is always, more, better, more, enhance, more, give me, get me, buy me, do me, more. If one can stop, and appreciate what we have, relax, and just try to modify what we possess to improve our lives, fine. But no. We totally wreck it, to the point that we jeopardize what we have. When we lose what we had gained after working so hard, we enter a life of regret. But it is too let to learn. it is done, over, finished. The lesson is that we have to be somewhat content with what we have, achieved, value, and possess. We can strive to obtain more, in multiplicity of variables, but beware of extending your desires to demanding what is too difficult, unreasonable, untimely, and without thought of others and the ultimate consequences. Satoru
We all have needs. When they are not meet, we have conflicts, problems and stress. Some of our basic needs are: to achieve and be successful, to be liked and loved, admired, respected, taken care of, to be gratified through food, drink, sex, entertainment, play, to be strong, and to be immortal, nobody likes the idea of their death. To allow these conflicts to internalize, they plant the seeds of the development of physical symptoms and manifestations. So, first differentiate between your needs and wants. If you do not need it, it is a luxury. There is nothing inherently wrong with indulgences, but comprehend that they are not necessities. Than recognize, and accept, that not fulfilling these accumulated wants and needs is a key to less stress, health problems, anger, rage, and frustration. (From A Way to Health – Move, to be published in 2019)
Noise is an environmental catastrophe.
When I go out on the beach, in the islands or Jacksonville, my heart laughs. The quiet and silence permeates the air and sky. Time slows down with your heartbeat and peace and wellness fills up your emotions.
The antithesis of this tranquility is trying to dine under the blare of loud music. What is not realized, by most societies, is that the stress response is triggered by loud noise. So, while the environment is made more exciting, your entire system is being deteriorated by attempting to relax and have a meal. The loud music is the equivalent of having the lions close at hand while you are trying to consume the only food of the day. Stressed out dinning? You bet.